1996

You're going to spend the next thirty years trying to become someone.

你將花接下來的三十年，試圖成為某個人。

You'll chase success because you think it will make you feel secure. You'll work harder than you need to, carry things nobody asked you to carry, and sometimes confuse being needed with being loved.

你會追逐成功，因為你以為它能讓你感到安全。你會比需要的更努力工作，承擔沒有人要你承擔的事情，有時候把被需要和被愛混為一談。

You're going to win more than you expect.

你會贏得比你預期更多。

And some of those victories are going to feel strangely quiet.

而其中一些勝利會感覺奇怪地安靜。

You'll love people you won't get to keep. Some will leave. Some you'll leave. A few will become family in that strange way where love survives even after the relationship doesn't.

你會愛上一些你留不住的人。有些會離開。有些是你離開。少數幾個會以那種奇怪的方式成為家人，即使關係結束了，愛依然留存。

Dad won't always be here.

爸爸不會永遠在這裡。

I wish I could prepare you for that one, but I can't. There are things in life you don't train for. When the moment comes, just sit with him. Say what needs to be said. You'll remember that conversation for the rest of your life.

我希望我能為你準備那一刻，但我做不到。生命中有些事情是無法訓練的。當那一刻來臨，就坐在他身邊。說出需要說的話。你會記得那次對話一輩子。

You're going to make mistakes. Real ones. Don't waste years wishing you could become innocent again. Guilt can't rewrite yesterday. Let it teach tomorrow.

你會犯錯。真正的錯誤。不要浪費多年的時間希望自己能重新變得純真。愧疚無法改寫昨天。讓它教導明天。

Stop being so afraid of being misunderstood. Some people will never completely understand you, no matter how carefully you explain yourself. Love them anyway, but don't spend your whole life standing in a courtroom defending who you are.

停止那麼害怕被誤解。有些人永遠不會完全理解你，無論你多麼仔細地解釋自己。還是去愛他們，但不要把整個人生都花在法庭上為自己是誰辯護。

And slow down.

慢下來。

You keep thinking your life is somewhere ahead of you.

你一直以為你的生活在前方某個地方。

It isn't.

不是的。

It's the stupid dinners. The airports. The songs that suddenly hurt. The photographs you almost didn't take. The people laughing beside you. The mango at the buffet. The conversation you nearly skipped because you were tired.

就是那些愚蠢的晚餐。機場。突然讓你心痛的歌。你差點沒拍的照片。在你身旁笑著的人。自助餐上的芒果。那個你因為太累差點跳過的對話。

Pay attention.

用心留意。

Thirty years from now, you'll still be figuring things out. You'll still fall for people. Still overthink. Still dream too big. Still occasionally wonder whether you're going to end up alone.

三十年後，你還是會在摸索中。還是會愛上人。還是會想太多。還是會夢太大。還是偶爾會想，自己是否終將孤獨。

But you'll know something you don't know yet:

但你會知道一件你現在還不知道的事：

A life doesn't have to turn out the way you imagined to have been worth living.

一生不必按照你想像的方式展開，也可以值得活過。

And when something beautiful is happening, just stop thinking about what comes next.

當美好的事情正在發生時，就停止想著接下來會怎樣。

You're already there.

你已經在那裡了。